Couples Counselling

The majority of people who decide to work with a psychologist do so to address relationship issues. Given that the chance of a first marriage ending in divorce over a 40 year period is 67% and that half of all divorces occur in the first seven years of marriage, that is not surprising.

The average couple waits six years before seeking help for relationship problems, which according to the statistics is too long. However, if both partners are committed to making changes, couples counselling can be very successful.

Dr. Tanja has been working with couples for over 16 years, and she was the first fully Certified Gottman Therapist in Alberta. She also has advanced training and supervision in Emotionally Focused Therapy, which is an excellent complement to the Gottman method. Her approach in working with couples is to start with a very thorough assessment of their areas of strength and areas that need work. Based on that assessment, she will then work with them on changing the negative emotional patterns that they get stuck in, along with teaching them skills and tools for managing conflict.

Making the decision to do couples work can be a scary and overwhelming experience. Finding the right fit with your psychologist is critical, and Dr. Tanja understands that. She always meets with new clients for a free initial half hour in-office consultation to answer any of your questions, hear a bit about what you and your partner would like from therapy, and share a bit about her approach with you.

Dr. Gottman appeared on the Anderson Cooper Show to talk about the Four Negative Patterns that can destroy a relationship. If you think you and your partner are struggling with these patterns or you would like to learn more about the Relationship Assessment she offers, contact Dr. Tanja today.

If you choose to work with Tanja the counselling will consist of three phases:

  • 01. A thorough assessment that will identify the areas in your relationship which need to be addressed
  • 02. Work in the sessions on teaching you practical skills for connection and conflict management
  • 03. A focus on identifying the negative emotional patterns that you and your partner get stuck in and working on creating healthier patterns of connection

To find out how well your relationship is doing, please take this quick quiz courtesy of the Gottman Institute.

If you are interested in booking an initial consultation with Tanja, contact her.