Couples Counselling

The majority of people who decide to work with a psychologist do so to address relationship issues. Given that the chance of a first marriage ending in divorce over a 40 year period is 67% and that half of all divorces occur in the first seven years of marriage, that is not surprising.

The average couple waits six years before seeking help for relationship problems, which according to the statistics is too long. However, if both partners are committed to making changes, couples counselling can be very successful.

Dr. Tanja has been working with couples for over 16 years, and she is a Certified Gottman Therapist. She also has advanced training and supervision in Emotionally Focused Therapy, which is a perfect complement to the Gottman method. Her approach in working with couples is to first do a very thorough assessment of their areas of strength and weakness, and to then work with them on changing the negative emotional patterns that they get stuck in.

Dr. Gottman appeared on the Anderson Cooper Show to talk about the Four Negative Patterns that can destroy a relationship. If you think you and your partner are struggling with those patterns or you would like to learn more about the Relationship Assessment she offers, contact Dr. Tanja today.

If you choose to work with Tanja the counselling will consist of three phases:

  • 01. A thorough assessment that will identify the areas in your relationship which need to be addressed
  • 02. Work in the sessions on teaching you practical skills for connection and conflict management
  • 03. A focus on identifying the negative emotional patterns that you and your partner get stuck in and working on creating healthier patterns of connection

To find out how well your relationship is doing, please take this quick quiz courtesy of the Gottman Institute.

If you are interested in booking an initial consultation with Tanja, contact her.